The Gift Of Knowing You There are gifts of many treasures For both the young and old, From the tiniest little trinkets To great boxes filled with gold. But, put them all together And they could not stand in lieu, Of the greatest gift of all The gift of knowing you. When your times are filled with troubles Sadness, grief, or even doubt, When all those things you planned on Just aren't turning out. Just turn and look behind you From the place at which you stand, And look for me through the shadows And reach out for my hand. I will lift from you your burden And cry for you your tears, Bear the pain of all your sorrows Though it may be for a thousand years. For in the end I would be happy To have helped you start anew, It's a small price to pay For the gift of knowing you I miss you everyday though talk to you all the time, do you hear me? So many things to tell you! I try to touch base with Andrea and make sure she is doing okay. Miss and love you my friend Chris

Jay missing you terribly this weekend. Just wanted to hear your voice and have one of those goofy kind of hugs you gave especially after you had a few. Steve, Jess and I went by the cemetery and left left you messages on rocks and a shell we collected near your beach house. We were with Andrea and Eric trying to figure out a way to use the cabinets you made from your first home. You do not have to worry about Andrea and the girls they are strong. We are all doing as promised helping to watch over them and Steve has your back, although Jay, there are times when he is not pleased with your Dad like attempts of putting things together. It often times brings forth a curse followed by a smile. Everyday you are with us, you are well loved and dearly missed. Kath

Halloween was last night. You always went with the kids. They missed you . Tess was a rainbow, and Jamie was a witch. We talk about you all the time, every day. Tonight we talked about your favorite Halloween candy (100000 bars and mounds!). Nana is missing you, the election is tomorrow. She would have been talking to you all day on and off about the conservative agenda. Nana was also remembering how much you loved boiled dinner......and whoopie pies. You are with me all the time. I love you............A

I just finished watching the video of you playing ball at Tom's. There's not a day that goes by that i don't think of you...ilu

Missing you today Jay. Love you with all my heart xxoo

I just watched a video from last August where you kicked everybody's butt in basketball at uncle Tom's! I know that we all find some sort of comfort when we share our memories about you ... and there are many. I miss you and think about you every day. You will live on through all of us and never be forgotten!!!

Hi Jay, Tessa's birthday today and I know you were watching over her and making sure she was okay. It's hard to believe she is 12 years old.....going on 18!! We are visiting with Andrea and the girls tomorrow for a little birthday celebration. I think they missed you a lot this week with the start of soccer, school and birthday parties that you should be here for. Andrea is holding it together and I know you are as proud of her as we are. I think about you morning, noon and night. Some days are better than others and one day I will find comfort in knowing you are okay and with Dad in a better place. I am not quite there yet.... ......Miss you and love you

You are in my heart always. I feel you guiding and helping me through life each day. The girls and I sent a helium balloon skyward with messages to you. Did you get it?

Remember this when you think of him...(not sure of the author but I loved this) "Death is nothing at all. I have only slipped away into the next room. Whatever we were to each other, that we are still. Call me by my familiar name. Speak to me in the easy way which you always used. Laugh at the little jokes we enjoyed together. Play, smile, think of me, pray for me. Let my name be the household word that it always was. Let it be spoken without effort. Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same as it ever was; there is absolutely unbroken continuity. Why should I be out of your mind because I am out of your sight? I am but waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just around the corner. All is well, Nothing is past, nothing is lost. One brief moment and all will be as it was before, only better. Infinitely happier and forever we will all be one together" Love you Jay and miss you everyday...

Tonight was the Lumniaria! I saw the big Dipper.

Everytime i think of Jay i just think about how he loved to joke around and loved to give you words of wisdom. I remember the day i came to the hospital and it was just him and me alone. We talked for a couple of hours before he fell asleep but i just remember him telling me "sara you can do all the talking in the world about what you are going to do but until you put that into action you will never really see how it goes. Life is to short make sure you enjoy it and do what you want. Take it from me" I cherish all the long talks that i had with him and i cherish the great memories. He touched so many people's lifes including mine. I will forever miss you. You are gone but not forgotten uncle jay. Your laughter and memories live on.

When I think of Jay I remember his quick wit and his laughter, his knowledge and his wisdom and his love of life and family. I always go back to when Jay lived in a basement room of my Lynnfield home to which he was grateful regardless of the 1 foot of water he had to occasionally endure. Chris was 2 and Emily was just born. Jay was there for me at a time in my life when I needed the support. I am not sure I ever really thanked him for that. I remember walking into his room one afternoon and laughing when I saw him watching the Discovery channel and studying Trivial Pursuit cards at the same time. When I teased him about cheating...he just laughed saying something like knowledge is power. He was great at playing games and he loved to win!! Jay, Forever remembered, Forever loved!!

There's not a day that goes by that i don't think of you. Thank you for "whispering words of wisdom" to me and many others! These moments have found a place in my heart and i'll never let them go. You will be forever missed...

Jay loved to play. As I look at these pictures of Jay behaving in his so familiar silly manner I am reminded of all the times he did play with all my kids. He would tease them until they were laughing or in Tims case crying! I remember one day at my old house we had a family gathering and Jay challenged Jenn to see who could walk on their hands the longest. I have picture of that somewhere. It was fun, play time for him. He without a doubt loved his nieces and nephews and took great pleasure in just being with them.